9 Signs You May Be in Denial
[Christian Boot Camp is a series of teachings on topics (which CBC refers to as Belief Deceptions) that cripple churches, such as pride, offense, anger, fear, self-righteousness, denial, blame-shifting, enabling and victim mentality, just to name a few. These teachings — complete with accompanying slides — can help your church get on the road to total health. The following article is a very short excerpt of the CBC teaching on the subject of DENIAL. Contact Innovative Church & Worship Consulting for more details.]
Today, many Christians more than ever are falling victim to Denial. Closet sins such as over-eating, alcohol and drug abuse, gossip, anger manifestations and use of pornography are areas that many believers choose to compromise and inter-mingle their faith with. Here are 9 signs that you may be in Denial.
1. You Try to Control Things You Can't. People who are in Denial struggle with accepting things, situations, and people for the way they are. You may have wanted your child to show an interest in a talent or career that made you happy, rather than one that makes them happy. Accepting situations that you can’t change — and dealing with them as Christ-like as possible is often your best option. Cast all your cares on Him, for He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7).
2. You Ignore Things You Know that You Need to Change. To the person who is in Denial, being overweight, quitting a bad habit, filing a tax return, or simply paying your bills on time are better dealt with by ignoring them and hoping that the problem goes away by itself. The sooner you get honest with yourself that a change needs to be made, ask for help, and develop a plan to overcome your obstacle, the sooner you’ll be on your way to a happier life.
3. You Refuse to Accept/Listen to Bad News. People who are in Denial often surround themselves with “yes-people” who tell them what they want to hear, dance around the real matter, and sugar-coat the truth. This is always a sign that you're hiding from reality. For those who operate with this mindset, disaster is eminent. Getting bad news is a reality of life. The quicker you can accept the bad news and make a plan to deal with it, the better off you — and those around you will be.
4. You’re Fine with the Status Quo. "That's the way it's done," "That's how we've always done it," or "we've never needed that before,” are often heard by people who are without question in Denial. Bringing to the table new solutions for old problems is a sure way to show people that you’re an out-of-the-box thinker.
5. People Have Told You You’re Too Indifferent, Aloof, and Detached. Whether you’re a Fortune 500 CEO, a small business owner, a construction worker, or a parent to young children, if more than a couple of people have told you that you’re ignoring an issue, chances are you’re in Denial. If you’re in a position of leadership, your proactive engagement in matters that affect those whom you lead speaks volumes about you — and your ability to lead.
6. You Deceive Yourself into Thinking Everything is Fine. People who are in Denial are known for phrases like “Every problem will probably work itself out.” Well, if by “working itself out” it means no one died, then I guess you were right. The fact is, it’s no coincidence that proactive people always seem to be the ones who make the most progress.
7. You Over-Sleep, Over-Eat, Over-Medicate, and Over-Recreate. These are all signs of someone who surely is in Denial. If you need to get help, get help — plain and simple.
8. You Don't Want to "Burden Others" with Your Problems. Not wanting to appear human or flawed to others is a sign of pride. God instructs us in Ecclesiastes 4, “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!”
9. You're Constantly Stressed. You’re anxious…short with people…bad-tempered, it’s all the same. Your conscience knows something's wrong and this is how it tells you you're afraid of something, and that you're not directly confronting the cause. If there is a situation that you’re afraid to face, face it anyway. When you do, it makes the next time easier; which makes the next time easier…and the next time easier…
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